Discussion about this post

User's avatar
Tiffany Skidmore's avatar

Appreciating your thoughts. It makes me think of a book: Stolen Focus by Johann Hari. Social media and smartphones (among other things) are shifting how our brains work, how we interact (or don't), our motivation, our capacity for focus and deep thinking. It takes intention and effort for most of us to be aware and not fall into the reactionary, impulse-driven mode that the designers of these platforms are banking on. I see a trend in my clients of more and more awareness and discomfort with their use of social media and screens, while struggling to change their behaviors. I think more conversations about these topics are essential to create the digital and irl future that will nourish more than erode.

I'm new to Substack and hopeful that it will be a place to interact at deeper levels and to cultivate growth, connection, and curiosity.

Expand full comment
Cheshir's avatar

I've seen this idea of coming to Substack to find a "better" social media, but I don't relate to that and feel passive in this conversation. The only time I use social media is when I want to be entertained or when I want to record my own life. I don't like keeping a physical journal, and I can access my social account anywhere with my phone and the internet. To be specific, I watch things on YouTube and post short things on Threads. I've grown up with YouTube, but I feel distant from the culture. Similarly, I don't really know what's going on with Threads, I just show up and do my own thing, very occasionally scrolling through to find questions and thoughts that I want to respond to for fun (if I don't get tired out by the yelling first).

I've been aware of the complaint of reactionary content that people hold towards social media, but in response, I think I turned to avoidance and don't use social media as social platforms. It feels more like a solitary experience (which I am satisfied with). If anything, I'll send interesting videos to my friends via text and talk with them. That's as social as these platforms get for me.

That all said, I feel more compelled to comment and share my thoughts the older I've become (barely a few years older, haha), especially on Substack. It's the thoughtfulness and a display of willingness to establish community found in most users that encourages me. I think that this phenomenon is, in part, a phenomenon that needed the hellish evolution of other social platforms in order to exist: if not for these bad experiences, the bitter observation of these sites, we wouldn't feel compelled to be open and welcoming, and we wouldn't be wary of its traps/downfalls. We know the risks, we've seen the bad, so we want to encourage the good of it. I look forward to seeing similar conversations like this on this site because the whole Notes aspect still feels way too similar to Threads for me.

As to how to move forward... I don't know. I just want to engage as naturally as I can without the fear of being loudly misconstrued. I still feel stressed when posting comments and even just liking posts.

Expand full comment
14 more comments...

No posts